I have plenty of women in my life who warned me ahead of time about all of the advice I would get, whether I asked for it or not. Most often, I am more than happy to hear what others have to say about pregnancy and newborns. I love asking the gals in my life to tell me all the things I need to know...even those things you can't find in any preggo book. The more I know, the better. Recently, I've noticed that women take the opportunity to relive their pregnancies while bombarding me with all the bad news they can think of. Almost always they start the story with "here is something they don't tell you". Or they lie and say, "I am so happy for you" and continue to tell me how miserable I am going to be. In the last week I have heard:
my teeth are going to get screwed up, my feet will swell, I'll have to buy all new shoes because my feet will grow a size, my face is going to break out, I am probbaly going to gain 87 pounds, I'll never lose the baby weight, my boobs will hurt like never before, I don't know what tired is and when I said my back was hurting me a little bit, I was told I have no idea what a backache was. Wow. I saved the best for last. Yesterday I was told by someone at work that I probably wasn't showing because I started off being so heavy! Are you kidding me? Who says that!? I was always feeling self-conscious and worried about not showing already and then to have someone say that! Wow. It was my first near-tear moment at work (pregnancy related at least). I am a little surprised that women, all of who have gone through this themselves, would say these things to another woman. Of all people, they should know it doesn't feel good to hear these things. I just feel like everyone was being so negative! I mean, it obviously can't be that bad if women continue to have babies, often more than one!
I guess I just need to take it all in stride. People are going to say stupid things and I just need to remember to blow it off as best I can. It's just one of those pregnancy things I never expected. Now THAT is something that they don't tell you!
hello...women are mean and often put other women down to make themselves feel better. the best line i was ever told (and too afraid to use) when someone told me i was huge...just reply, "well, I'm xx months pregnant, what's your excuse." hang in there.
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